Women’s Order of Priority in the Desirable Qualities of an Ideal Muslim Husband Points
1st. A Pious Muslim
2nd. Truthfulness and honesty
3rd. A good leader
4th. Justice and fairness
5th. Love of children
6th. Kindness and consideration
7th. Readiness to consult his wife
8th. Good manners
9th. Chastity and good morals
10th. Trustworthiness and reliability
11th. Avoids quarrelling and beating
12th. Clean habits
13th. Strength of mind and will
14th. Gentleness
15th. Generosity
16th. A loving nature
17th. Ability to be contented with one wife
18th. Sense of humour
19th. Reasonableness
20th. FirmnesS
21st. Intelligence
22nd. Seriousness
23rd. Good looks
24th. Physical strength
25th. Wealth
This list of qualities is not of course comprehensive, and there are a few important omissions. However, it raises many interesting points for our brothers to consider in their endeavor to qualify as a potential or actual ideal Muslim husband.
Those who feared that by adhering to Islamic piety and moral standards they would frighten women away will see that they are actually at the top of the league.
This information also confirms the natural order of things referred to and upheld in the Qur’an, in that women do apparently want their men folk to lead and not be led. Leadership has to be deserved and qualified by all the other qualities mentioned in the upper part of the list, such as piety, truthfulness, fairness, kindness, consultation, good manners, good morals and so on.
It is interesting to go over in one’s mind the qualities of the Prophet (saws) mentioned in the earlier part of this paper and match them with this list to see how far the Prophet’s (saws) behavior to his wives demonstrates perfectly those qualities to which women give priority.
Therefore any man who wants to make a success of his marriage cannot go wrong if he takes as his model and example the practice of the blessed Prophet (saws).
For our brothers we pray for Allah to give them the faith and moral strength to attain those great qualities and thereby make a success of their marriages.
For our sisters I pray for Allah’s guidance to make each of us worthy of being the good wife of a good Muslim husband.
* Credit to Muslim Marriage FB's Page. *
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